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What It’s Like to Run a Marathon
December 5, 2024
As 2024 comes to a close, I’ve been reflecting on what a great year it’s been. I’ve had challenges, don’t get me wrong, but I had my fun and did a lot of things I hadn’t before; one of the most notable being that I ran my first marathon.
The inspiration to do it came from my partner. He signed up wanting to challenge himself, and with something that required a ton of discipline and training, I knew I would benefit from doing the marathon with someone rather than on my own. I didn’t actually sign up until August (let this be your first lesson: marathons aren’t cheap), but I started my training in June. I found a simple plan online and adjusted my workout split: a leg day, chest day with a run, back day with a run, and two days for running only.
The running schedule was pretty simple to follow. I had to do three runs during the week, and the fourth run was usually the longest one. When I began, I enjoyed the challenge of the lengthening distance, and soon enough, I was doing 10 kilometres in an hour. The longer the scheduled persisted, the more time I had to free up to train, and this soon became tedious. As much as I enjoyed the exercise, it was difficult having to make changes to my schedule for my training amongst also being in summer school and working part-time. That being said, it taught me how important discipline was. If I didn’t make the time to run, I would pay for it during my race, and I wasn’t doing this to perform poorly. By the time I had worked up to run 30 kilometres, I felt ready for the race.
The night before the marathon, I couldn’t sleep. What if I couldn’t finish and let myself down? What if I get hurt? What if my partner gets hurt? I was a flurry of excitement, nervousness, dread, and pride. If I could make it through grief, pain, and heartbreak, I can run this race. I’m a woman, my body can make a baby. What’s a marathon?
Oh, I’ll tell you what a marathon is.
It was literally one of the hardest things I have ever done. The first half was a breeze; I had a pace of 5:50 and had no qualms. Then, around the 24 kilometre mark, I hit a wall. The reason being: energy gels.
For those who don’t know, energy gels are small pouches of a goopy-like substance that’s full of various sugars, carbs, and amino acids to help your body keep going during intense workouts. I didn’t use them during my training, instead, I would eat a protein or granola bar halfway through my long runs to fuel me till the finish. The day of my race was the first time I had taken them, and it wasn’t uncommon for runners to get sick from them. Which, unfortunately, is what happened to me.
My stomach wailed with discomfort by the second gel. I thought my legs or my endurance would be the obstacle to overcome, and it felt like my body was betraying me. But then again, how could I not see this coming? Why did I change my routine the day of the race? And most importantly, how was I going to finish?
I alternated from jogging to walking for a good 10 kilometres. I wouldn’t allow myself to not finish this race, I couldn’t. All of the effort, time, and sweat I put into it, I had to finish. Even if it meant puking every other kilometre, I was going to reach the end.
Thankfully, I didn’t throw up once. But at this point in the marathon, everyone is suffering and dropping like flies. I saw people curled up on the side of the road, I saw vomit, I saw people passed out. It was a war, runners against their own bodies.
Right around the end of the race, I saw my best friend holding a big sign that said “hot girls run marathons”, and she was smiling and told me to keep going. Seeing her, along with running by my partner twice during the race, gave me the strength to keep going. I had people who loved me waiting for me at the end of the race. I had to get to them.
It took me 4 hours and 54 minutes, but I finished the Toronto Waterfront Marathon. They gave me my medal and I smiled. A little after the finish line, I was met by my family, my friends, and my partner. I bathed in the sense of accomplishment and joy, until hunger and exhaustion overtook me. But I did it. I couldn’t believe it. I can do anything.
If you’re thinking about running a marathon, do it. It is the hardest thing you will ever do, but you will learn a whole lot about yourself. And your legs will look fantastic. I definitely want to do another race one day, but I will be taking the next year off.
Then again, maybe a half marathon. Just to keep the rust from growing.
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To All Aspiring Artists
November 11, 2024
I’ll never forget when I was in grade 12 and I asked a teacher where I could go to school for writing and his response was “you cant.” To a confused 18-year-old, that was probably the worst thing I could have heard. His suggestion was to instead pursue travel and tourism. Now that I have the knowledge of how many career paths you can have as a writer, I have no idea why that was the best thing he could come up with. It was a good thing I didn’t listen to him because the following year, COVID hit.
I’m now in my final year of my Creative Writing and Publishing program at Sheridan College, and I’m so glad that I chose to take the leap and go to school for what I love. Don’t be fooled, it hasn’t been easy. Being an artist is filled with a lot of self-doubt, uncertainty, and for me personally, imposter syndrome. I’m very lucky to have a supportive group of people around me, otherwise I don’t know how I would have kept persisting the way I have been.
For my artists that don’t have the support they need, let this be your support; if you love to create, keep creating. Even if it’s only 10 minutes a day, it’s better than nothing. Life is very grim and strenuous, and when you’re an adult, its important to make pockets of joy for yourself throughout your responsibilities. Draw a picture, write in a journal, whatever you feel like would be fun or needed, do it. It goes a long way.
It took me a few years, but I did finally figure out what my niche in writing is; screenwriting. Now, I’m actively pursuing a career in the film industry and it’s a dream of mine to write an Oscar-winning screenplay and win an Emmy for a TV script. It’s funny though, when I was a kid I had always wanted to write a book with the hopes it would be turned into a film. Someone should have told me I could have just skipped the book part and jumped right to the movie.
I hope to look back on this blog in 10 years and reflect on where I came from, because I am very lucky to have the supportive family and friends that I do. As much as I want to do this for them, it’s also for little me who had more stars in her eyes than are in the sky. I kept the stars for her and I want to make her proud.
And to all my fellow artists, keep creating. You don’t know how badly the world – and you – need it.
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The Current Soundtrack to my Life
August 26, 2024
Whenever I have to do a mundane task like grocery shop or clean my bathroom, I play music as if I’m in a movie. Like it’s a montage, and I’m the young college girl who’s about to go on a crazy adventure, but right now, I’m picking out the finest bell peppers I can find to a pop song. Or maybe I’m scrubbing my bathroom floors to an upbeat indie song for a little motivation. I could even be on an angry jog listening to rock. The opportunities are endless (and way too much fun).
It’s only natural I think about what songs I would play if I were to make a soundtrack for my life. It’s the same reason I always ask people what they listen to and why; our taste can reveal a lot more about ourselves than we realize. One of the best parts about going to a concert is coming together to celebrate an artist that you hold so dear, and knowing that’s exactly how everyone else feels.
Now, to begin my selections as to what I would pick for the soundtrack of my life right now, I’m going to start off with:
- Slow Burn – Kacey Musgraves: Something slow and sweet to begin. This soft, beautiful country song has been one of my favourites since the day I heard it, which was about 5 years ago.
Favourite lyric: “Old soul, waitin’ my turn / I know a few things but I still got a lot to learn”.
- Dreams – Fleetwood Mac: One of the best songs off one of the best albums. This funky, folky rock tune has long lived in my heart, as does Stevie Nicks.
Favourite lyric: “But listen carefully to the sound / of your loneliness / like a heartbeat drives you mad”.
- Picturing Love – July Talk: I’ve seen July Talk 6 times live, that’s how much I love them. I skipped my grade 10 semi-formal to see them which I was scared I would regret, and it was the opposite. Some of the best stage chemistry I’ve seen.
Favourite lyric: “I undress in seven steps / Like your camera’s watching me / I suppose I’ll strike a pose / But that’s so predictable”.
- Paper Girl – July Talk: Yes, two songs in a row. They’re just that good. This one in particular reminds me of being a teenager and summer.
Favourite lyric: “Well it must be hard / To be a pretty girl / Yea, it must be hard / To watch your body growing old”.
- The Morning – The Weeknd: I adore the guitar in this, and hearing it live was a dream. His voice was just as stunning. A calm, seductive, r&b classic.
Favourite lyric: “Her love is too damn foreign”.
- Pyramids – Frank Ocean: 9 minutes of pure and utter perfection. I will never forgive my brother for seeing this song live without me. Its groovy, it’s funky, it’s smooth as hell.
Favourite lyric: “Wake up to your girl / For now, let’s call her Cleopatra”.
- Love Galore – SZA: This song reminds me of my best friend and us screaming it in her van in the summer of 2018. One of my favourite memories.
Favourite lyric: “We get so lonely we pretend that this works”.
- How to disappear – Lana Del Rey: I’ve never heard a song sound so soothing and soft. It’s like a lullaby and has beautiful lyrics to go alone with it.
Favourite lyric: “I watched the guys getting high ss they fight / For the things that they hold dear / To forget the things they fear”.
- Garden Song – Phoebe Bridgers: Lyrically, this song is one I relate to very closely. On top of that, it’s a gorgeous tune, and I’m a huge fan of the way Phoebe writes.
Favourite lyric: “No, I’m not afraid of hard work / I get everything I want”.
- Not Strong Enough – boygenius: My favourite supergroup around, this trio makes the best kind of sad music; some are slightly more upbeat, others are totally heartwrenching. Either way, they created this song which is one I will adore for many years to come.
Favourite lyric: “There’s something in the static / I think I’ve been having revelations”.
- After Midnight – Chappell Roan: A huge part of my current pop girly summer, this fun pop ballad keeps me dancing (and running, it’s a great workout song).
Favourite lyric: “I love a little drama, let’s start a bar fight”.
- Ribs – Lorde: Another tune that reminds me of my best friend but also being a teenager. A very nostalgic song that I cannot believe was written by a 16-year-old. Amazing.
Favourite lyric: “Mom and let me stay home / It drives you crazy getting old”.
- Rose-Colored Boy – Paramore: A song I relate to very much. I’m not a pessimist, but as Hayley Williams says, just let me cry a little bit longer. Also, a super fun song to hear live.
Favourite lyric: “And oh, I’m so annoyed / ‘Cause I just killed off what was left of / The optimist in me”.
- Heaven Is – Kacey Musgraves: A second Kacey song! This one reminds me of my partner and just makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. I’m a hopeless romantic, can you blame me?
Favourite lyric: “The way you sound when you call my name / That’s what heaven is”.
- Alive! – Bakar: Another song that just makes me happy. It’s an upbeat indie tune that makes you wanna dance and bask in the sunshine.
Favourite lyric: “I know the sunshine isn’t promised so I put it in my pocket”.
- Cool Cat – Queen: Freddie Mercury: my muse. I love the smooth bass as well as the guitar, and paired with the angelic vocals of Mr. Mercury, this song makes anyone feel like the coolest kid on the block.
Favourite lyric: “Ooh, you’re alright / Hanging out and stealing all the limelight”.
- Eternal Summer – The Strokes: This song reminds me of my friends and biking through Niagara-on-the-Lake during our summers. We’d ride around with a speaker and watch the sunset together.
Favourite lyric: “Hercules, your silence is no longer needed”.
And there you have it, songs that I would happily choose for a soundtrack of my life. Of course this will rapidly change as I discover new songs, but I believe we’re off to a good start.
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Getting Older is Weird
July 14, 2024
When you’re a kid, the most appealing thing about being an adult is the freedom. You don’t need to ask permission from anyone, you can do as you please and behave however you see fit. Most people are raised to be self-sufficient, responsible, and full of common sense. As you age and grow and branch out, you begin to realize that while there are a lot of really smart people out there, most adults are still 16-years-old mentally.
I soon realized the ideals and expectations I had for adulthood were incorrect. A lot of older people have absolutely no idea what they’re doing, where they’re going, or who they even are. I’ve had people twice my age act more immature and petty than I could ever manage, but I’ve seen people younger than me balance responsibilities and issues I could only imagine. The spectrum is incredibly broad.
My parents raised me a certain way that I thought most people would also experience, but that is simply not true; there are uncontrollable factors at play, like finances, health, and familial dynamics. Younger siblings tend to be spoiled and entitled, older siblings were the “test-drive” who always got yelled at. There’s some truth to these stereotypes (as the baby of my family, I am very much determined to always get what I want) but people are as unique as they come.
Now that I’ve been on my own for a few years, test driving this shitty, exciting car that is adulthood, I’ve truly realized how weird it is to get older. Everybody is obsessed with looking young, so they inject their faces with fillers and botox, only to end up looking 10 years older. They waste money chasing youth they’ll never get back. My attitude to getting older is simple: aging is inevitable, being hot is one thing, but being cool is more important. I’d rather age gracefully and look 65 when I am 65 than spend the prime of my life fighting for the youth I haven’t lost yet.
Being a woman also adds to the weirdness of aging. Men hate older, aged woman. Why? Who knows, considering most of the men themselves have no hair and a beer gut. I’ve seen woman in the public eye torn down for simply having wrinkles, grey hair, or loose skin around their bellies after childbirth. Meanwhile, we allow men who are 50+ to date women that could be their daughters. When you’re older, you appreciate the beauty of the youth around you, but some people take it a little too far.
Besides the weirdness, there are a lot of amazing things about aging. You get to see your friends grow and accomplish their dreams, and eventually become the cool aunt to all their children. You get to hangout with your family like you’re old friends and finally learn all of the drama you were once too young to understand. You get to shape and mould your life however you please, and you can quite literally do whatever you want. You can move countries, get a degree in history or health science or creative writing, get a pet, fall in love and start a family, the opportunities are endless. Getting older is weird, but it’s not a bad thing. It’s a confusing, catastrophic, amazing experience that we are all lucky to have.
They say the older you are, the wiser, and I’m beginning to wonder if it was a kid who said it.
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An Ode to My Grade Seven Self
May 29, 2024
Every year in elementary school, my peers and I were ordered to write and present a speech on a topic of our choosing. Many hated this task, but if you’re someone like me who enjoys entertaining people, I jumped at the occasion.
I had lost my grandma the year before when I was in grade 6, so I wrote a speech in honour of her. My original topic was something along the lines of “How to Survive in a Zombie Apocalypse”, but this changed for obvious reasons.
Now was my time to shine. I had always wanted to write a speech that was funny; I had seen many before me from my classmates, keeping the audience in stitches despite the fact they might have sweat stains forming in their armpits, or their hands won’t stop shaking. These indications of nerves were considered by the judges, but it’s hard to dislike a speech if it keeps on making you laugh (at least I think so).
The topic I chose was “Things I Suck At”. What better way to make people laugh than to poke fun at yourself? And boy, it worked. In fact, I even made it so far as to presenting it in front of the school. I didn’t win, but I made all the students in the school and my teachers laugh.
Yesterday, I thought about that speech and that brave little pre-pubescent fireball who got up there and tore herself a new one without a care in the world. I have to respect her, even if the speech isn’t that funny now. It was something to be proud of and that’s what matters.
I’m an adult now, and though things have definitely changed since I was a pre-teen, there are still things I could be better at. So, in honour of little me, here is my new-and-improved list of things I suck at.
- Math. It will forever be the bane of my existence.
- Chemistry. Incredibly interesting, but I cannot grasp it for the life of me.
- Squatting. Curse you, bad back.
- Hockey. I scored one goal for the single season I played.
- Not buying a cute shirt when I know the outfit I’d wear it with. Fatal flaw.
- Casual dating. I’m a poet for heavens sake.
- Academic Essays. I can do them, but it’s comparable to medieval torture.
- Making pancakes. I either burn them or they’re still runny in the middle.
- Staying awake during movies when I watch them anywhere other than a movie theatre.
- Parallel parking. Is anyone actually good at that?
- Talking to children. I simply can’t bring myself to do a baby voice.
- Shooting a basketball. I only made the team because I was tall.
- Taxes. I can’t do math and you want me to do taxes?
- Sleeping in. The early bird gets the worm and my frustration when my circadian rhythm awakens me at the crack of dawn on a day off.
There’s definitely other things I’m not great at, but for the sake of not completely embarrassing myself, let’s just call it there.
Something I definitely don’t suck at: making lists.
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Mending Chasms: Allyship Through Poetry
May 16, 2024
Earlier this year, I had the honour of receiving first place in the Debwewin Poetry Contest for the city of Oakville, Ontario. My piece, “dialect”, was inspired by a dear friend of mine who is of the Mi’kmaq tribe. In this interview, I discuss my background in the arts, my poem, how I overcome challenges as a young independent artist, and other topics amongst poetry and our writing processes.
Watch the interview here!
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the great poet
May 2, 2024
like gold thread, i spin words
into something bright and bold
i wear them on my back, my own
golden fleece
but you, you are
something far more superior
i could not have imagined you if i tried
to describe you would be comparable to
describing all of the colours in the sky
as the sun rises
you have me at a loss for words
and how can i be a great poet
if i cannot write you down?
but no prose
nor poetry
could encapsulate all that is
your beauty
what a privilege that you chose me
the same time i chose you
this invisible string, never cut loose
the greatest of poets call love
beautiful, tender, but it is more
it is everything and it is overwhelming
to try and pretend a page
could capture all of it
you are the gold thread
that sewed shut all my cuts
and yes,
i am the poet
but you,
you are the love
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Why Situationships Need To Die
March 11, 2024
We used to write love letters, but now we wait for one-word text replies.
Many moons ago, when my mum tried to end her relationship with my dad, he faked a stroke. What he failed to consider was my mum — who was in nursing school at this point — could tell that he was, in fact, not having a stroke, and trying to distract from what was actually going on; he didn’t want to break up. By all means he succeeded in gaining her sympathy and here we are, thirty years and two kids later.
It is within everyone’s best interests that I explain my mum did not settle for my dad because she felt bad. She gave him another chance to step up, and he did. For the twenty-three years I have called that man my father, he has always come through for my family. He took my brother and me for car rides or to the park when my mum needed a second to breathe. He’d wake me before the sun was up, get me ready for whatever sports practice I had that morning, and make sure I was fed. He was fiercely loyal, and I watched him become much softer and more emotionally intelligent as both of us aged.
Because of my parents, anything that was not a committed, loving relationship didn’t make sense to me. The first time I heard the word situationship, I remember rolling my eyes; it was another excuse for people to run away from something real. Upon finding myself in the dating world in my early twenties, it was hard trying to navigate finding someone I genuinely liked while also wanting the same thing as them. I learned the hard way that most people do not want to be in love whenever they connect with somebody. Even the idea drew out no intrigue; I’ve seen it met with more disgust and haste than anything. Because of this, I chose to remove myself from casual dating and let myself meet people more organically. It was much more ideal than staring at someone’s face through an app.
Of course, some people don’t believe love is important or necessary. This is the most dire mistake one can make (and it rhymes so what more proof is needed?). Outside of romantic love, familial and platonic love are the two most important things humans need, especially when we are growing. Even now, there are some nights that I call my parents just to hear their voices. I text my brother and my best friends every day. Certainly, I do have to consider those who have poor relationships with family or smaller groups of friends. But even then, we all must have at least one person or maybe even a pet that we love, one thing in our life that we would do anything for. Even the coldest of people have a soft spot somewhere.
By no means do I think casual dating is bad. I think the opposite. It’s just not for everyone, and I happen to be one of the people who can’t do it. For people who can, hats off to you. The problem is those who settle for less than what they want and those who deceive. When studying the concept of a situationship, assistant psychologist professor Anna Behler stated “I think that [situationships] are presented in such a negative light because people use that term when they’re not sure what else to call the connection they feel towards someone…but the healthy thing would be if both partners could come to a consensus on what exactly they are” (University Wire). Rather than keep the lines blurred and hold someone in a place of confusion, why not just address what you both see each other as? It may reach a difficult conclusion if your needs are different, but in the end, your time is precious too.
Many people seem to think that being vulnerable means you’re weak. But there’s nothing more resilient than being able to be fully honest with yourself and someone else and they love you no matter what. “Situationship” has no place in my vocabulary. If I cannot go home to them and let them under my skin, I would rather sleep alone. If he’s not willing to make a fool of himself to keep me around, like faking a stroke in front of a nursing student, I do not want it.
Humans are complex creatures. We do stupid things, but we also do amazing things, and I firmly believe loving someone is one of the greatest.
Source: “Experts Tackle the Situationship Epidemic | News | Technicianonline.Com.” University Wire, Feb 05 2024, ProQuest. Web. 11 Mar. 2024 .